OJASWI SHARMA Attach Detach

 FROM SATSANGS OF GURUDEV SHRI OJASWI SHARMA

ATTACHMENT AND DETACHMENT-

Pointers for developing inner detachment 

how can attachment go away?

A: Attachment does not go away, or become diluted, simply by thinking. Thin-king helps,

because one comes to know that one has attachments with objects, houses, money, people,sons, daughters, parents. But two or three factors are important and there are helpful methods for achieving inner detachment.

The first method is to contemplate, again and again, on how transitory life is. It is an opportunity for detachment. Life is tempo-rary. Everything is disappearing and will go away.

This is the truth and nobody can deny it. Nothing can stay, so what is the point of having

attachment for it? It is useless. Attachment is foolishness and ignorance.

Houses, money and relatives, all these leave us at the time of death (of the physical body),but we carry with us the attachment to them (in the subtle body). That attachment is bondage.

Therefore, wisdom lies in getting rid of this attachment before physical death.

Another fact for consideration is that old age, disease and death come to everybody. It is possible that one may not have any disease, but old age and death will definitely come. In old age, even if there is no disease, one will become very weak. A time will come when one is unable even to make a cup of tea! Often one will be unable even to get up from one’s bed without help. In old age one generally becomes dependent on others, just as a child is dependent. This is why they say that an old person is just like a child. 

A child needs the support and help of others. So old age is waiting for everybody, and death will definitely come. Therefore the recollection of the concepts of old age, disease and death is bound to generate detachment from the world.

But more important than this method is the approach of doing service for others. This is the secret for getting rid of attachment. You should serve others, and particularly those to whom you feel attached the most. If you adopt an attitude of service for them, then by doing service,

a time will come when attachment to them will come to an end. You will achieve inner

purification. You will have performed the duty which you owed to that person. The debt

towards that person will have been paid off by service. Inner purification will take place and attachment will disappear.

However, it is not only service towards certain people. Step by step, one has to develop an attitude of service towards everybody. ‘Everybody’ means whoever comes into contact with you. It does not mean that you have to go out into the street and ask anybody if you can serve them. It means that, wherever you are, you should have the attitude of service.

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By ‘service’ we mean our readiness for what-ever action we can perform to bring comfort,assistance and happiness to others. By adopting these methods, we get transformed. Then a time comes when in our subtle body, in our mind, the element of selfishness is gradually replaced by the element of love.