Jk love

 

We are not loved because we don't know how to love

 there is no love when each one of us is seeking his own security, his own particular path

 When you say you love God  it means that you love a projection of your own imagination, a projection of yourself clothed in certain forms of respectability according to what you think is noble and holy;  When you worship God you are worshipping yourself-that is not love.  

 Love may be the ultimate solution to all man's difficulties, problems and travails

 when you feel separate from another there is no love.

 when one loves there must be freedom, not only from the other person but from oneself.  

 love is not to do with pleasure and desire

 Love is not the product of thought which is the past.

 If you know love you will not follow anybody. Love does not obey. When you love there is neither respect nor disrespect.  

 

 really to love somebody - to love without hate, without jealousy, without anger, without wanting to interfere with what she is doing or thinking, without condemning, without comparing 

  When there is love there is no duty and no responsibility

 without love your daily life has no meaning. And you cannot have love if there is no beauty. Beauty is not something you see - not a beautiful tree, a beautiful picture, a beautiful building or a beautiful woman. There is beauty only when your heart and mind know what love is

 A man who does not know what passion is will never know love because love can come into being only when there is total selfabandonment.  

to come upon love without seeking it is the only way to find it - to come upon it unknowingly and not as the result of any effort or experience. Such a love, you will find, is not of time; such a love is both personal and impersonal, is both the one and the many. 

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                             A Dialogue With Oneself      I realize that love cannot exist when there is jealousy; love cannot exist when there    is  attachment.    Now,   is   it  possible   for  me   to be   free   of  jealousy   and attachment? I realize that I do not love. That is a fact. I am not going to deceive myself; I am not going to pretend to my wife that I love her. I do not know what love is. But I do know that I am jealous and I do know that I am terribly attached to her and that in attachment there is fear, there is jealousy, anxiety; there is a sense of dependence. I do not like to depend but I depend because I am lonely; I am shoved around in the office, in the factory and I come home and I want to feel comfort and companionship, to escape from myself. Now I ask myself: how am I to be free of this attachment? I am taking that just as an example.     At first, I want to run away from the question. I do not know how it is going to end up with my wife. When I am really detached from her my relationship to her may change. She might be attached to me and I might not be attached to her or to any other woman. But I am going to investigate. So I will not run away from what I imagine might be the consequence of being totally free of all attachment. I do not know what love is, but I see very clearly, definitely, without any doubt, that attachment   to   my   wife   means   jealousy,   possession,  fear,   anxiety   and   I   want freedom from all that. So I begin to enquire; I look for a method and I get caught in a system. Some guru says: "I will help you to be detached, do this and this; practise   this   and   this."   I   accept   what   he   says   because   I   see   the   importance   of being free and he promises me that if I do what he says I will have reward. But I see that way that I am looking for reward. I see how silly I am; wanting to be free and getting attached to a reward.     I do not want to be attached and yet  I find myself getting attached to the idea that   somebody,   or   some   book,   or   some   method,   will  reward   me   with   freedom from attachment. So, the reward becomes an attachment. So I say: "Look what I have done; be careful, do not get caught in that trap." Whether it is a woman, a                                                  3 

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method, or an idea, it is still attachment. I am very watchful now for I have learned something;   that   is,   not   to   exchange   attachment   for   something   else   that   is   still attachment.     I ask myself: "What am I to do to be free of attachment?" What is my motive in wanting to be free of attachment? Is it not that I want to achieve a state where there   is   no   attachment,   no  fear   and   so   on?   And   I   suddenly   realize   that   motive gives   direction   and   that   direction   will   dictate   my   freedom.   Why   have  a   motive? What is motive? A motive is a hope, or a desire, to achieve something. I see that I am attached to a motive. Not only my wife, not only my idea, the method, but my motive   has   become   my   attachment!   So   I   am   all   the   time   functioning   within   the field of attachment - the wife, the method and the motive to achieve something in the future. To all this I am attached. I see that it is a tremendously complex thing; I did not realize that to be free of attachment implied all this. Now, I see this as clearly as I see on a map the main roads, the side roads and the villages; I see it very clearly. Then I say to myself: "Now,  is it possible for me to be free of the great   attachment   I   have   for  my   wife   and   also   of   the  reward   which   I   think   I   am going to get and of my motive?" To all this I am attached. Why? Is it that I am insufficient in myself? Is it that I am very very lonely and therefore seek to escape from that feeling of isolation by turning to a woman, an idea, a motive; as if I must hold   onto   something?   I   see   that   it   is   so,   I   am   lonely   and  escaping   through attachment to something from that feeling of extraordinary isolation.     So I am interested in understanding why I am lonely, for I see it is that which makes me attached. That loneliness has forced me to escape through attachment to this or to that and I see that as long as I am lonely the sequence will always be this. What does it mean to be lonely? How does it come about?  Is it instinctual, inherited,   or   is   it   brought   about   by   my   daily   activity?   If   it   is   an   instinct,   if   it   is inherited,   it   is   part   of   my  lot;   I   am   not   to   blame.   But   as   I   do   not   accept   this,   I question it and remain with the question. I am watching and I am not trying to find an intellectual answer. I am not trying to tell the loneliness what it should do, or                                                     4 

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what it is; I am watching for it to tell me. There is a watchfulness for the loneliness to reveal itself. It will not reveal itself if I run away; if I am frightened; if I resist it. So   I   watch   it.   I   watch   it   so   that   no   thought   interferes.   Watching   is   much   more important than thought coming in. And because my whole energy is concerned with the observation of that loneliness thought does not come in at all. The mind is   being   challenged   and   it  must   answer.   Being   challenged  it   is   in   a   crisis.   In   a crisis   you   have   great   energy   and   that   energy   remains   without   being   interfered with by thought. This is a challenge which must be answered.     I started out having a dialogue with myself. I asked myself what is this strange thing   called   love;   everybody   talks   about   it,   writes   about   it   -   all   the   romantic poems, pictures, sex and all other areas of it? I ask: is there such a thing as love? I see it does not exist when there is jealousy, hatred, fear. So I am not concerned with love anymore; I am concerned with `what is', my fear, my attachment. Why am I attached? I see that one of the reasons - I do not say it is the whole reason - is   that   I   am   desperately   lonely,   isolated.   The   older   I   grow   the   more   isolated   I become.   So   I   watch   it.   This   is   a   challenge   to   find   out,   and   because   it   is   a challenge       all  energy     is  there   to   respond.     That    is  simple.    If  there    is  some catastrophe, an accident or whatever it is, it is a challenge and I have the energy to meet it. I do not have to ask: "How do I get this energy?" When the house is on fire I have the energy to move; extraordinary energy. I do not sit back and say: "Well, I must get this energy" and then wait; the whole house will be burned by then.     So there is this tremendous energy to answer the question: why is there this loneliness?   I   have   rejected   ideas,   suppositions   and   theories   that   it   is   inherited, that it is instinctual. All that means nothing to me. Loneliness is `what is'. Why is there this loneliness which every human being, if he is at all aware, goes through, superficially or most profoundly? Why does it come into being? Is it that the mind is   doing   something   which   is   bringing   it   about?   I   have   rejected   theories   as   to instinct   and   inheritance   and   I   am   asking:   is   the   mind,   the   brain   itself,   bringing                                                      5 

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about this loneliness, this total isolation? Is the movement of thought doing this? Is the thought in my daily life creating this sense of  isolation? In the office I am isolating myself because I want to become the top executive, therefore thought is working all the time isolating itself. I see that thought is aIl the time operating to make itself superior, the mind is working itself towards this isolation.     So the problem then is: why does thought do this? Is it the nature of thought to work for itself? Is it the nature of thought to create this isolation? Education brings about this isolation; it gives me a certain career, a certain specialization and so, isolation. Thought, being fragmentary, being limited and time binding, is creating this   isolation.   In   that   limitation,   it   has   found   security   saying:   "I   have   a   special career in my life; I am a professor; I am perfectly safe." So my concern is then: why does thought do it? Is it in its very nature to do this? Whatever thought does must be limited. Now the problem is: can thought realize that whatever it does is limited, fragmented and therefore isolating and that whatever it does will be thus? This is a very important point: can thought itself realize its own limitations? Or am I telling it that it is limited? This, I see, is very important to understand; this is the real essence of the matter. If thought realizes itself that it is limited then there is no resistance, no conflict; it says, "I am that". But if I am telling it that it is limited then   I   become   separate   from   the   limitation.   Then   I   struggle   to   overcome   the limitation, therefore there is conflict and violence, not love.     So does thought realize of itself that it is limited? I have to find out. I am being challenged. Because I am challenged I have great energy. Put it differently: does consciousness realize its content is itself? Or is it that I have heard another say: "Consciousness is its content; its content makes up consciousness"? Therefore I say,   "Yes,   it   is   so".   Do   you   see   the  difference   between   the   two?   The   latter, created by thought, is imposed by the `me'. If I impose something on thought then there is conflict. It is like a tyrannical government imposing on someone, but here that government is what I have created.                                                    6 

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     So   I   am   asking   myself:   has   thought   realized   its   own   limitations?   Or   is   it pretending   to   be   something   extraordinary,   noble,   divine?   -  which   is   nonsense because thought is based on memory. I see that there must be clarity about this point: that there is no outside influence imposing on thought saying it is limited. Then, because there is no imposition there is no conflict;  it simply realizes it is limited; it realizes that whatever it does - its worship of god and so on - is limited, shoddy,   petty   -   even   though   it   has   created   marvellous   cathedrals   throughout Europe in which to worship.      So     there   has    been    in   my   conversation       with   myself     the   discovery     that loneliness   is   created   by   thought.   Thought  has   now   realized   of   itself   that   it   is limited   and   so   cannot   solve   the   problem   of  loneliness.   As   it   cannot   solve   the problem of loneliness, does loneliness exist? Thought has created this sense of loneliness, this emptiness, because it is limited, fragmentary, divided and when it realizes this, loneliness is not, therefore there is freedom from attachment. I have done nothing; I have watched the attachment, what is implied in it, greed, fear, loneliness, all that and by tracing it, observing it, not analysing it, but just looking, looking and looking, there is the discovery that thought has done all this. Thought, because   it   is   fragmentary,   has   created   this   attachment.   When  it   realizes   this, attachment ceases. There is no effort made at all. For the moment there is effort - conflict is back again. 

    In love there is no attachment; if there is attachment there is no love. There has   been   the   removal   of   the   major   factor   through   negation   of   what   it   is   not, through   the   negation   of   attachment. 

  I   know   what   it   means   in   my   daily   life:   no remembrance of anything my wife, my girl friend, or my neighbour did to hurt me; no attachment to any image thought has created about her; how she has bullied me,   how   she   has   given   me comfort,   how   I   have   had   pleasure   sexually,   all   the different     things    of   which     the   movement        of   thought     has    created     images; attachment to those images has gone.                                                     7 

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    And there are other factors: must I go through all those step by step, one by one?     Or   is  it  all  over?  Must   I  go  through,    must    I  investigate   -  as   I  have investigated attachment - fear, pleasure and the desire for comfort? I see that I do not have to go through all the investigation of all these various factors; I see it at one glance, I have captured it.     So, through negation of what is not love, love is. I do not have to ask what love is. I do not have to run after it. If I run after it, it is not love, it is a reward. So I have negated, I have ended, in that enquiry, slowly, carefully, without distortion, without illusion, everything that it is not - the other is.